HomeSpunHealers

A lot of us are very lucky to have gotten the parents we were born to or adopted by.  Some are extremely lucky, such as Randy Pausch, author of The Last Lecture, who claims he won the lottery when it comes to parents!  However, most of us didn’t get perfect parents, and a lot of us got some extremely dysfunctional ones.  When my husband and I recently heard Randy Pausch claim he had won the parent lottery, my husband Jim put this spin on it:  “He may have won the lottery; I got a scratch off ticket that said, ‘Thanks for playing; try again!’”

We may as well laugh, huh?

These roses are also from my rose bush that just seems to be taking over the side of my porch.  It’s called a Don Juan rose, very romantic.  I am just amazed every time I walk by there.  Never having any success with roses in my yard, I am just so shocked that this one seems to love it.  I guess you just have to find the perfect place, and this seems to be it for this bush.

What about my perfect place?  This is it, too.  Right where I am, just who I am.  I’ve been through a lot to get here, but I wouldn’t have gotten here except that I came the way that I did.  I love who I am and, even more, who I am becoming.  I love this new beginning, this becoming.  It’s time for it now. 

I’ve been working on changing my thoughts and consequently changing my actions.  My goal, or at least one of them, is to be healthier and thinner. My knees and ankles and feet are insistent that they not have so much weight to support any longer.  So, I’m heading for that lighter place where all my body parts can function at their best level.  I don’t know where that is, but I’ll know it when I get there.

One thing I’m doing to change my thoughts and actions is hypnosis.  I completed a course in hypnosis, so I am certified to perform hypnosis.  The way hypnosis works is that you make direct contact with your subconscious mind, which believes anything you tell it.  And based on what my subconscious mind believes, so I act.  I’ve been acting in a way that is unhealthy.  So, the scientific answer is change the thoughts; change the actions.  I’ve written a very specific hypnosis script that tells me exactly what I want myself to hear and to believe.  I’ve done this before, with a lot of success.  So, I’m doing it again, but it’s important to me this time to get the script just right for the person I am today.  I’m not the same person as I was when I did my first script, about a year ago.  When I have it exactly right, I’ll record it and then listen to it several times until I feel I don’t need to listen anymore.

Another thing I’m doing to help change my thoughts is to discover what some of those thoughts currently are or have been that do not serve me very well.  I guess I have to know what they are, so I know how to change them.  This week, I’m considering this question:  What do I want that I am not currently having?  I wrote a few things down such as a thinner body, a healthier body, and more money.  But as I continue to think about the question, I don’t think those are the things I really want that I don’t currently have.  I think it really boils down to a life without fear.  And it has hit me for the first time, how truly fearful I still am.  I think fear dominates a lot of my behavior.  So, that’s what I want that I’m currently not having: a life free of fear.  Now, I have to figure out what I need to do to have that.

Another question I am considering is this:  What were the rules in my family as I was growing up about deserving?  I don’t really know if these were rules, but somehow I got the idea that I only deserved good things for myself if I was good.  Also, I got the idea that I never was good enough.  Never.   I’m not blaming my parents.  In the past, I’ve tried to blame my mother, but I know that she loves me more than anything, and she always did and does the best for me that she knows how to do.  And I also realize that my mother operates on the same rules:  She only deserves something good if she’s good enough, and she’s never ever good enough.  No wonder I learned that from her.  But that’s not true.  We’ve learned a lie.  Maybe if I can get my mind straight about the truth, I can help her get hers straight, too.  Wouldn’t that be the coolest thing in the world?  But I know when it comes right down to it, I can only change myself.  But I also know that if I change myself, then others will change in relation to my change.  So, that’s quite powerful, isn’t it?  By changing myself, I change the whole world, to some degree.

So, goodbye life of fear.  Goodbye idea that I don’t deserve the absolute best things for myself.  Goodbye idea that I am never good enough.  I am free of fear, I deserve the best things in life, and I am good enough right this moment to have whatever I want and need to live the most glorious life ever.

Deb

Today we are sharing the love and shining our spotlight on other blogs that we feel offer something of value to the online community.  If you don’t see your site posted, don’t fret.  HomeSpun Granny plans to keep her eyes peeled for future blogs to shine the spotlight on every Wednesday.  (Note: We ALWAYS check out the blogs of those who are kind enough to leave a comment or sign our guestbook!) 

So, without further adieu, here’s the Top Five Websites that we have noted for this Wednesday. Be sure to check out:

The Personality Development Workbook: http://www.gayathrimoosad.com/index.html

The Internet Marketing University:  http://www.theimuniversity.com/

Sparkplugging:    http://www.sparkplugging.com/

Tea Party Girl:  http://www.teapartygirl.com

The Brocante Home Chronicles/Puttery Treats:  http://brocantehome.typepad.com/brocante_home/puttery_treats.html

Abundantly Yours,

HomeSpun Granny

“A merry heart doeth good like a medicine.” ~ Proverbs 15:13

We’ve all heard that laughter is the best medicine, and that particular modern saying comes from a much older writing in Proverbs.  I think laughter is one of my greatest gifts; my sense of humor keeps me going even in the direst of circumstances.  And the funniest moments sometimes come to us in the everyday activities of our lives.  For instance, when I worked at Parker Middle School, there was a particularly annoying 6th grade student who brought down the classroom with laughter one day.  This  kid was trying hard to be the class clown and took every opportunity to interrupt me or his fellow classmates with stupid tricks or lame jokes.  Not only did he irritate me, but I could hear the groans and see the  rolling eyes of the other students in the class, also.  However, one day as we were going over our vocabulary words, and we were discussing the meaning of “clairvoyant,” I asked who could tell me of a psychic experience.  Of course my little clown’s hand shot up first.  I looked hopelessly around for another hand, but finding none, I asked him what his experience was.  He replied, “I just wanted to use that word in a sentence.”  “Okay, go ahead,” I sighed.  Instead of saying something crazy, or falling out of his desk onto the floor, or some other antic, he began his sentence quite seriously.  “My mother says I’m clairvoyant because I have always been psychotic.”  For the first time that year, he brought down the house with uproarious laughter.  And not understanding what caused the merriment, he asked, looking a little embarrassed, “What?”  I just wanted to hug him right then and there. 

We are very proud of how well our blog is progressing, and the impressive number of visitors who have come to call since the birth of HomeSpun Healers. To all of our visitors and readers: Thank you! 

Today we are sharing the love and shining our spotlight on other blogs that we feel offer something of value to the online community.  If you don’t see your blog posted, don’t fret.  HomeSpun Granny plans to keep her eyes peeled for future blogs to shine the spotlight on every Wednesday.  (Note: We ALWAYS check out the blogs of those who are kind enough to leave a comment or sign our guestbook!) 

So, without further adieu, here’s the Top Five Bloggers that we have noted for this Wednesday. Be sure to check out:

1) Fit Over Forty: http://fitoverfourty.wordpress.com/2008/05/21/exerciseit-doesnt-suck-as-much-as-a-heart-attack/

2) The Best Kept Secret: http://blog.thebestkeptsecret.ca/2008/05/best-kept-secret-blog-other-woman.html

3) The Transition Chick Blog: http://ecareercornerchat.typepad.com/solopreneurs_saga/2007/11/balancing-tips-.html

4) Sophie’s Press: http://sophiespress.wordpress.com/2008/05/20/im-beautiful-dammit/

5) Success Myths Uncovered: http://successmythsuncovered.com/are-you-hanging-out-with-successful-people/

Enjoy!

HomeSpun Granny